Son Killed for Not Re-marrying

Father, relatives kill son for refusing to marry again

Patna, May 20 :A man in a village in Bihar's Bhojpur district declined to carry out his father's order to desert his wife and marry another woman. The enraged father and other relatives beat the son to death, police said Wednesday.

Dharmendra Choudhary, in his late 20s, was killed Tuesday, allegedly by his father and other family members in Saropur village of Bhojpur district, 60 km from state capital Patna.

"Dharmendra was beaten to death by his father and others after he refused to marry again," a police officer said.

Dharmendra's father-in-law Budhan Choudhary has lodged an FIR (first information report) at the Piro police station and blamed Dharmendra's father and other family members for the killing.

Budhan said his daughter Anita Kumari married Dharmendra in 2003 and the couple had no children. "Dharmendra's family members were pressurising him to marry again but he refused time and again as he was happy with his life."

Dharmendra had a heated conversation with his father and other family members Tuesday. After that he was beaten to death.

It is common in rural Bihar for families to force their sons to marry again if the couple do not have children after three years of marriage.


We have all heard of dowry deaths where a bride is killed because she had brought insufficient dowry. Nowadays, the government has made rules so stringent that wives have started harassing their husbands by lodging FIR's in police stations against them for demanding dowry, although the poor husband is innocent.
However, given above is another type of harassment where if the couple do not have children, the wife is invariably blamed although the husband may be at fault in having lower sperm counts.
The poor boy above lost his life, killed by his own father and relatives because he would not remarry.
I have a sister who too did not have any children. Her father-in-law tried many times to get his son to remarry. Her husband did not and they lived without children.
If you see your own good in whatever God does, it helps you to pass the worst of times with equanimity.
Then there are other cases where the husband remarries because the wife has not borne him a male issue.
We all know after reading about X and Y chromosomes that the husband is supposed to carry the Y chromosomes which produces male children and if no male is born, the husband is to blame. But in our male dominated society, even for this, the wife is blamed.
When I was in Patna, I had a landlord whose wife bore him 7 girls.
He decided to remarry to get a male heir.
He married an uneducated girl from a poor family who was of the same age as his fourth daughter.
The new wife bore him another five girls and then one boy.
The only silver lining in the whole episode was that he educated his second wife to become an M.A.
Of course, the M.A was from Bihar where in those days mass copying used to be the rule.
However, people of Punjab and Haryana have overcome this problem.
They get some fetal tests done by which they are told whether the foetus is male or female.
If it is female, they get it aborted.
My India is Great.
Of course, our government has made such testing illegal but still doctors carry out the test clandestinely with the result the female/male population ratio in those areas has become unfavourable towards female.
And the irony is, we worship the female as godesses.
All the important portfolios in the hierarchy of are gods have been allotted to ladies.Defence and Home, Durga, Finance, Lakshmi and Education, Saraswati.