10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
…90% of life is decided by how you react…
What does this mean?
We really have NO control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in the traffic.
The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How?... By your reaction.
Do not let people fool you. YOU can control how you react.
Let us use an example…
You are having breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what has just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your wife and you criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.
You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late, you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60.00 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.
After arriving at the office 20 minute late, you realize you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D"
You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say: "It's okay, honey, you just need to be more careful next time." Grabbing a towel you go upstairs and change your shirt. You grab your briefcase, and you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early a cheerfully greet the staff.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios.
Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you reacted.
You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life.
The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 Principle.
If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do not have to let the negative comments affect you.
React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, or getting stressed out.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in the traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? (a friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off), Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Who cares if you arrive 10 seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 Principle and don't worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time to find a new job.
The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, why stress out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90/10 Principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.
The 90/10 Principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this Principle.
The result?
You will see it by yourself!
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and headaches. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 Principle. It can change your life! Enjoy it!
It only takes willpower to give ourselves permission to make the experience. Absolutely everything we do, give, say, or even think, it's like a Boomerang. It will come back to us.
If we want to receive, we need to learn to give first. Maybe we will end with our hands empty, but our heart will be filled with love. And those who love life, have that feeling marked in their hearts.
This has been sent by Arun Shroff.
I think I may have posted something similar quite some time back from Partha Sengupta.
However, the subject is important enough to warrant a repeat.
Thursday, November 26, 2009
Use of Mobiles
VERY IMPORTANT... ....
This is a real incident that happened in a local hospital in Bangalore, India.
A 4-year old girl was admitted due to leg fracture. As it was an open
fracture, she had to undergo an operation to stitch the protruding bone back
in place. Though it was quite a minor operation, she was hooked on to life
support system, as a part of the process.
The doctors had to input some data prior to the operation to suit different
conditions. Thereafter, the operation proceeded.. Half way through the
process, the life support system suddenly went dead.
The culprit : -
Some one was using his/her hand-phone outside the operation theatre. And the
frequency had affected the system.. They tried to track the person, but to no
avail. The little girl, young and innocent as she was, died soon after.
Be compassionate! Do not use your hand phone / mobiles especially at any
hospitals or within the Aircraft or any places where you are told not to use
it... You might not be caught in the act, but you might have killed someone
without knowing.
Sometimes it's a matter of Life & Death.....!! !
Last Word :
So friends, please avoid using your mobile phones in hospitals / petrol pumps
/ aircraft etc ... wherever it is mentioned no use of mobiles, go by the
rules, it's a matter of life & death.
Sent by Arun Shroff
This is a real incident that happened in a local hospital in Bangalore, India.
A 4-year old girl was admitted due to leg fracture. As it was an open
fracture, she had to undergo an operation to stitch the protruding bone back
in place. Though it was quite a minor operation, she was hooked on to life
support system, as a part of the process.
The doctors had to input some data prior to the operation to suit different
conditions. Thereafter, the operation proceeded.. Half way through the
process, the life support system suddenly went dead.
The culprit : -
Some one was using his/her hand-phone outside the operation theatre. And the
frequency had affected the system.. They tried to track the person, but to no
avail. The little girl, young and innocent as she was, died soon after.
Be compassionate! Do not use your hand phone / mobiles especially at any
hospitals or within the Aircraft or any places where you are told not to use
it... You might not be caught in the act, but you might have killed someone
without knowing.
Sometimes it's a matter of Life & Death.....!! !
Last Word :
So friends, please avoid using your mobile phones in hospitals / petrol pumps
/ aircraft etc ... wherever it is mentioned no use of mobiles, go by the
rules, it's a matter of life & death.
Sent by Arun Shroff
Some places do have odd names
Sent by Arun Shroff
Does it give the name of the place or describe the people working in this bank.
SBI should explain
The National Anthem - An Analysis
This has been sent by Thondup
I have always wondered who is the ' adhinayak'and' bharat bhagya vidhata',whose praise we are singing.. I thought
might be Motherland India! Our current National Anthem
'Jana Gana Mana'is sung throughout the country.
Did you know the following about our national anthem, I didn't.
To begin with, India 's national anthem, Jana Gana Mana
Adhinayaka,was written by Rabindranath Tagore in honor of
King George V and the Queen of England when they visited
India in 1919. To honor their visit Pandit Motilal Nehru
had the five stanzas included , which are in praise of the
King and Queen.(And most of us think it is in the praise
of our great motherland!! !)
In the original Bengali verses only those provinces that
were under British rule,i.e .Punjab,Sindh, Gujarat ,
Maratha etc. were mentioned. None of the princely states
were recognized which are integral parts of India now Kashmir,
Rajasthan, Andhra, Mysore or Kerala. Neither the Indian Ocean
nor the Arabian Sea was included, since they were directly
under Portuguese rule at that time.
The Jana Gana Mana Adhinayaka implies that King George V
is the lord of the masses and Bharata Bhagya Vidhata
is 'the bestower of good fortune'.
Following is a translation of the five stanzas that glorify the King.
*First stanza:* (Indian) People wake up remembering your good name and ask for your blessings and they sing your glories.
(Tava shubha name jaage; tava shubha aashish maage, gaaye tava jaya gaatha)
*Second stanza*: Around your throne people of all religions
come and give their love and anxiously wait to hear your kind words..
*Third stanza:* Praise to the King for being the charioteer, for leading the ancient travelers beyond misery.
*Fourth stanza: *Drowned in the deep ignorance and
suffering, poverty-stricken, unconscious country? Waiting
for the wink of your eye and your mother's (the Queen's) true protection..
*Fifth stanza*: In your compassionate plans, the sleeping Bharat
(India) will wake up. We bow down to your feet O' Queen,
and glory to Rajeshwara (the King).
This whole poem does not indicate
any love for the Motherland but depicts a bleak picture.
When you sing Jana Gana Mana Adhinayaka, whom are you glorifying?
Certainly not the Motherland. Is it God? The poem does not
indicate that. It is time now to understand the original
purpose and the implication of this, rather than blindly sing
as has been done the past fifty years.
Should we ???
I have always wondered who is the ' adhinayak'and' bharat bhagya vidhata',whose praise we are singing.. I thought
might be Motherland India! Our current National Anthem
'Jana Gana Mana'is sung throughout the country.
Did you know the following about our national anthem, I didn't.
To begin with, India 's national anthem, Jana Gana Mana
Adhinayaka,was written by Rabindranath Tagore in honor of
King George V and the Queen of England when they visited
India in 1919. To honor their visit Pandit Motilal Nehru
had the five stanzas included , which are in praise of the
King and Queen.(And most of us think it is in the praise
of our great motherland!! !)
In the original Bengali verses only those provinces that
were under British rule,i.e .Punjab,Sindh, Gujarat ,
Maratha etc. were mentioned. None of the princely states
were recognized which are integral parts of India now Kashmir,
Rajasthan, Andhra, Mysore or Kerala. Neither the Indian Ocean
nor the Arabian Sea was included, since they were directly
under Portuguese rule at that time.
The Jana Gana Mana Adhinayaka implies that King George V
is the lord of the masses and Bharata Bhagya Vidhata
is 'the bestower of good fortune'.
Following is a translation of the five stanzas that glorify the King.
*First stanza:* (Indian) People wake up remembering your good name and ask for your blessings and they sing your glories.
(Tava shubha name jaage; tava shubha aashish maage, gaaye tava jaya gaatha)
*Second stanza*: Around your throne people of all religions
come and give their love and anxiously wait to hear your kind words..
*Third stanza:* Praise to the King for being the charioteer, for leading the ancient travelers beyond misery.
*Fourth stanza: *Drowned in the deep ignorance and
suffering, poverty-stricken, unconscious country? Waiting
for the wink of your eye and your mother's (the Queen's) true protection..
*Fifth stanza*: In your compassionate plans, the sleeping Bharat
(India) will wake up. We bow down to your feet O' Queen,
and glory to Rajeshwara (the King).
This whole poem does not indicate
any love for the Motherland but depicts a bleak picture.
When you sing Jana Gana Mana Adhinayaka, whom are you glorifying?
Certainly not the Motherland. Is it God? The poem does not
indicate that. It is time now to understand the original
purpose and the implication of this, rather than blindly sing
as has been done the past fifty years.
Should we ???
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Raj Tackerays blackmail will now STOP
Two foreign firms vying for building film city in Bihar
Patna,(BiharTimes): The government has invited proposals to develop a film city in the state under the public private partnership. Four places, Bihta, Gaya, Hajipur and Rajgir have been identified for the construction of the world class film production unit.
Besides the film production infrastructure, the film city would have hotels, shopping malls and amusement parks for the tourists.
Two companies Ernst and Young Private Ltd and Grant Thornton, made a power-point presentation on the proposed film city project at a meeting here recently.
According to Anshuli Arya, managing director of the Infrastructure Development Authority, the nodal agency to handle the project, both the firms made impressive presentation of the film city project. The financial bid of the project would be opened now in which the company for the product will be decided.
She said that the state government will make a feasibility study of the proposal before finalizing the site. Film city should be near an airport as it should have good connectivity. Also, the site should be rich in natural beauty for location shooting.
For the world class accommodation of the celebrities construction of hotels has already been included in the projects, she added.
She said that an area of nearly 100 acres for the proposed film city would be provided by the government on lease while the structure related to the pre and post production of films would be developed by the firms selected for the project.
Bihar is attracting more and more film makers. There is boon in the Bhojpuri film in the recent years. The annual turn over is of more than Rs 200 crore.
I would like to congratulate Nitish Kumar for setting up the Film City in Bihar.
I would request him to make this a joint venture between all the Hindi speaking states, with contributions from all.
We have had sufficient black-mailing of the film world from that imbecile Raj Thackeray.
This is a resounding slap on his face.
The Mumbai film industry depends upon the Hindi films to maintain its reputation. With the building of the film city in Bihar, the Hindi speaking states will go out of the clutches of the imbecile.
If Rajasthan, Haryana, UP,Uttarkand,Himachal, MP and Bihar combine with Bihar , no Hindi films made in Maharshtra will be allowed to be exhibited in these states.
It will create employment for the people of these states.
I am sure, Amitabh Bachhan for one will welcome this move.
I would also request the BCCI members to move out its office from Mumbai and also SEBI.
I am sure Nitish will give them plenty of land to build their buildings and now since all trading is done on-line, SEBI should have no problem.
No further blackmail from the imbecile should be tolerated.
Patna,(BiharTimes): The government has invited proposals to develop a film city in the state under the public private partnership. Four places, Bihta, Gaya, Hajipur and Rajgir have been identified for the construction of the world class film production unit.
Besides the film production infrastructure, the film city would have hotels, shopping malls and amusement parks for the tourists.
Two companies Ernst and Young Private Ltd and Grant Thornton, made a power-point presentation on the proposed film city project at a meeting here recently.
According to Anshuli Arya, managing director of the Infrastructure Development Authority, the nodal agency to handle the project, both the firms made impressive presentation of the film city project. The financial bid of the project would be opened now in which the company for the product will be decided.
She said that the state government will make a feasibility study of the proposal before finalizing the site. Film city should be near an airport as it should have good connectivity. Also, the site should be rich in natural beauty for location shooting.
For the world class accommodation of the celebrities construction of hotels has already been included in the projects, she added.
She said that an area of nearly 100 acres for the proposed film city would be provided by the government on lease while the structure related to the pre and post production of films would be developed by the firms selected for the project.
Bihar is attracting more and more film makers. There is boon in the Bhojpuri film in the recent years. The annual turn over is of more than Rs 200 crore.
I would like to congratulate Nitish Kumar for setting up the Film City in Bihar.
I would request him to make this a joint venture between all the Hindi speaking states, with contributions from all.
We have had sufficient black-mailing of the film world from that imbecile Raj Thackeray.
This is a resounding slap on his face.
The Mumbai film industry depends upon the Hindi films to maintain its reputation. With the building of the film city in Bihar, the Hindi speaking states will go out of the clutches of the imbecile.
If Rajasthan, Haryana, UP,Uttarkand,Himachal, MP and Bihar combine with Bihar , no Hindi films made in Maharshtra will be allowed to be exhibited in these states.
It will create employment for the people of these states.
I am sure, Amitabh Bachhan for one will welcome this move.
I would also request the BCCI members to move out its office from Mumbai and also SEBI.
I am sure Nitish will give them plenty of land to build their buildings and now since all trading is done on-line, SEBI should have no problem.
No further blackmail from the imbecile should be tolerated.
English to be made official language of Europe
For those of us who like English, here is some good news from Sivatosh Dev regarding the promotion of English in Europe.
The European Commission has just announced an agreement whereby English will be the official language of the European Union rather than German, which was the other possibility.
As part of the negotiations, the British Government conceded that English spelling had some room for improvement and has accepted a 5- year phase-in plan that would become known as 'Euro-English' .
In the first year, 's' will replace the soft 'c'. Sertainly, this will make the sivil servants jump with joy. The hard 'c' will be dropped in favour of 'k'. This should klear up konfusion, and keyboards kan have one less letter. There will be growing publik enthusiasm in the sekond year when the troublesome 'ph' will be replaced with 'f'. This will make words like fotograf 20% shorter.
In the 3rd year, publik akseptanse of the new spelling kan be expekted to reach the stage where more komplikated changes are possible.
Governments will enkourage the removal of double letters which have always ben a deterent to akurate speling.
Also, al wil agre that the horibl mes of the silent 'e' in the languag is disgrasful and it should go away.
By the 4th yer people wil be reseptiv to steps such as replasing 'th' with 'z' and 'w' with 'v'.
During ze fifz yer, ze unesesary 'o' kan be dropd from vords kontaining 'ou' and after ziz fifz yer, ve vil hav a reil sensibl riten styl.
Zer vil be no mor trubl or difikultis and evrivun vil find it ezi tu understand ech oza. Ze drem of a united urop vil finali kum tru.
Und efter ze fifz yer, ve vil al be speking German like zey vunted in ze forst plas.
If zis mad you smil, pleas pas on to oza pepl
The European Commission has just announced an agreement whereby English will be the official language of the European Union rather than German, which was the other possibility.
As part of the negotiations, the British Government conceded that English spelling had some room for improvement and has accepted a 5- year phase-in plan that would become known as 'Euro-English' .
In the first year, 's' will replace the soft 'c'. Sertainly, this will make the sivil servants jump with joy. The hard 'c' will be dropped in favour of 'k'. This should klear up konfusion, and keyboards kan have one less letter. There will be growing publik enthusiasm in the sekond year when the troublesome 'ph' will be replaced with 'f'. This will make words like fotograf 20% shorter.
In the 3rd year, publik akseptanse of the new spelling kan be expekted to reach the stage where more komplikated changes are possible.
Governments will enkourage the removal of double letters which have always ben a deterent to akurate speling.
Also, al wil agre that the horibl mes of the silent 'e' in the languag is disgrasful and it should go away.
By the 4th yer people wil be reseptiv to steps such as replasing 'th' with 'z' and 'w' with 'v'.
During ze fifz yer, ze unesesary 'o' kan be dropd from vords kontaining 'ou' and after ziz fifz yer, ve vil hav a reil sensibl riten styl.
Zer vil be no mor trubl or difikultis and evrivun vil find it ezi tu understand ech oza. Ze drem of a united urop vil finali kum tru.
Und efter ze fifz yer, ve vil al be speking German like zey vunted in ze forst plas.
If zis mad you smil, pleas pas on to oza pepl
Monday, November 23, 2009
Now DGP Gautam speaks of Corruption
'Corruption prime threat to internal security'
TNN 23 November 2009, 05:38am IST
From Times of India, Patna Edition
PATNA: Former DGP D N Gautam on Saturday identified corruption as the prime threat to internal security in India.
"When there was a serial blast in Mumbai, it was found that the RDX smuggled in was passed by the customs after taking bribe," he pointed out, and stressed that corruption was subverting the entire system in the country. Gautam was delivering a talk on `India's Internal Security Concerns' at the A N Sinha Institute of Social Studies on Saturday. "Corruption leads to failure of government schemes, migration and vulnerability of citizens," he stressed.
He pointed out that ultra Left forces were thriving in rural areas because of the vacuum created by politicians and social activists. "The state machinery has contributed to the weakening of the state. It is when the system is subverted that certain elements step in and intervene in favour of the people and win their support," he said, stressing that nationalism is a casualty when the system gets subverted.
He also pointed towards a large section of the population not being utilized productively and rural wealth not being capitalized by the economy. "The economic policies benefit a few persons only," he remarked, stressing that the deprived sections were feeling insecure. "There are certain groups who are harvesting the discontent," he said.
He recalled that during his tenure at Hyderabad, he found that the recruitment of tribals in the police force was zero.
Earlier, the director of the institute D M Diwakar welcomed him and introduced the subject. He stressed on the various forms of internal security ranging from livelihood security to law and order problem.
I wonder if Former DGP D N Gautam was from Bihar.
If from Bihar, he should know very well since upto the time Nitish Kumar took over, it was the most corrupt state in India.
The recent example of the arrest of David Headley in the USA by the FBI and the father son duo of Mohammad Yaqub Janjua and Aamer Yaqub Janjua by the Italian police is an example how work should be done.
Our police are boggged down in important jobs like running after dilapidated and obsolete buses and autos and collecting toll from hawkers. How can you expect then to pay attention to such mundane jobs like catching terrorists before they commit the crime?
If they do take any small action they have to broadcast it for the benefit of the media who run after them with a microphone to get their statements and they have to show some accomplishment.
Further, the local politicians raise the bogie of acting against a particular community when in 90% of the cases, it is that community which is behind the terrorist activity.
So, our police is being fed information about these criminals by the FBI. How, when and where they stayed and did their planning in Mumbai.
Our police and security agencies are filled with people who have been appointed on quotas, grace marks and on the basis of everything except efficiency.
How can you expect any results from them.
And the efficient ones are shunted from one useless and ineffective post to another like Kiran bedi has been
Are you surprised there have not been many more 26/11?
I am.
When jackals like the uncle and nephew duo of Thackerays bark at defenceless people but scurry away to the safety of their bills at the least hint of danger, what can you expect.
Did you hear anything from them on 26/11
TNN 23 November 2009, 05:38am IST
From Times of India, Patna Edition
PATNA: Former DGP D N Gautam on Saturday identified corruption as the prime threat to internal security in India.
"When there was a serial blast in Mumbai, it was found that the RDX smuggled in was passed by the customs after taking bribe," he pointed out, and stressed that corruption was subverting the entire system in the country. Gautam was delivering a talk on `India's Internal Security Concerns' at the A N Sinha Institute of Social Studies on Saturday. "Corruption leads to failure of government schemes, migration and vulnerability of citizens," he stressed.
He pointed out that ultra Left forces were thriving in rural areas because of the vacuum created by politicians and social activists. "The state machinery has contributed to the weakening of the state. It is when the system is subverted that certain elements step in and intervene in favour of the people and win their support," he said, stressing that nationalism is a casualty when the system gets subverted.
He also pointed towards a large section of the population not being utilized productively and rural wealth not being capitalized by the economy. "The economic policies benefit a few persons only," he remarked, stressing that the deprived sections were feeling insecure. "There are certain groups who are harvesting the discontent," he said.
He recalled that during his tenure at Hyderabad, he found that the recruitment of tribals in the police force was zero.
Earlier, the director of the institute D M Diwakar welcomed him and introduced the subject. He stressed on the various forms of internal security ranging from livelihood security to law and order problem.
I wonder if Former DGP D N Gautam was from Bihar.
If from Bihar, he should know very well since upto the time Nitish Kumar took over, it was the most corrupt state in India.
The recent example of the arrest of David Headley in the USA by the FBI and the father son duo of Mohammad Yaqub Janjua and Aamer Yaqub Janjua by the Italian police is an example how work should be done.
Our police are boggged down in important jobs like running after dilapidated and obsolete buses and autos and collecting toll from hawkers. How can you expect then to pay attention to such mundane jobs like catching terrorists before they commit the crime?
If they do take any small action they have to broadcast it for the benefit of the media who run after them with a microphone to get their statements and they have to show some accomplishment.
Further, the local politicians raise the bogie of acting against a particular community when in 90% of the cases, it is that community which is behind the terrorist activity.
So, our police is being fed information about these criminals by the FBI. How, when and where they stayed and did their planning in Mumbai.
Our police and security agencies are filled with people who have been appointed on quotas, grace marks and on the basis of everything except efficiency.
How can you expect any results from them.
And the efficient ones are shunted from one useless and ineffective post to another like Kiran bedi has been
Are you surprised there have not been many more 26/11?
I am.
When jackals like the uncle and nephew duo of Thackerays bark at defenceless people but scurry away to the safety of their bills at the least hint of danger, what can you expect.
Did you hear anything from them on 26/11
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